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Back to Basics Day 9: Perfectionism

…my perfectionism is gone again. Whenever something seems to be too hard; look and see if your perfectionism is getting in the way. When your frustration level reaches that exploding point; STOP and check to see if it is your perfectionism that is making you crazy. Are you ready to FLY? Let go of your perfectionism and sprout those wings!!! FlyLady Tip of the Day: When you hear yourself say, “I don’t have time!”Set your timer for just 2 minutes…

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Back to Basics: Perfectionism

…my perfectionism is gone again. Whenever something seems to be too hard; look and see if your perfectionism is getting in the way. When your frustration level reaches that exploding point; STOP and check to see if it is your perfectionism that is making you crazy. Are you ready to FLY? Let go of your perfectionism and sprout those wings!!! FlyLady Tip of the Day: When you hear yourself say, “I don’t have time!”Set your timer for just 2 minutes…

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Back to Basics Musing: Perfectionism

…it is the sitting down and putting our feet up along with the warmth of the liquid inside of it that blesses us! I don’t have to make it so hard. Poof another layer of my perfectionism is gone again. Whenever something seems to be too hard; look and see if your perfectionism is getting in the way. When your frustration level reaches that exploding point; STOP and check to see if it is your perfectionism that is making you crazy. Are you…

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Column 01 – Perfectionism is Shelved in 2012 by the FlyLady, Marla Cilley

…bat you are beating yourself up with on a daily basis and use it to hit home runs. Each time you see perfectionism throwing you a curve ball; turn it around and hit it back to where it belongs; Out of sight and out of mind! Perfectionism is clutter. Let’s put our perfectionism up on a shelf and forget about it. Fear is the opposite of love! In fact I believe that it is worse than hate. It is hate disguised as something else. When we uncover our…

Back to Basics: Perfectionism

…difficult. A cup is a cup: it is the sitting down and putting our feet up along with the warmth of the liquid inside of it that blesses us! I don’t have to make it so hard. Poof another layer of my perfectionism is gone again. Whenever something seems to be too hard; look and see if your perfectionism is getting in the way. When your frustration level reaches that exploding point; STOP and check to see if it is your perfectionism that is…

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The Bonds of Perfectionism

…istakes help us to learn. I am so thankful for all the mistakes I have ever made. They have brought me to the place I am today. I have taken those mistakes and turned them into lessons for all of us to learn how to let go of perfectionism. Perfectionism makes us sick. I will never forget my first lesson on this when I was a stained glass artist in the early 1990s. I had spent three weeks working on a very large window. It had over 600 pieces in…

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Are You Living with Rabid Perfectionism?

…; I can do this all by myself! I don’t need help! Self-deprecating- We are best at this! Beating ourselves up! Perfectionism is a vicious cycle that keeps our family stuck and our home in CHAOS! When you let go of your perfectionism, you open the doors to fun and peace. Our perfectionism keeps our family out of the so-called “perfect” spaces. You know exactly what I am talking about. When you get the kitchen clean you threaten…

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You Might Be a Perfectionist If

…behind a computer or phone screen. We do not edit testimonials. Perfectionism is not an asset. It is a wedge that you insert into your relationships. When you feel the urge to correct or complain; that is your red flag that perfectionism is rearing its ugly head. Your perfectionism is the reason you won’t write on your calendar. Your perfectionism is the reason your home is in CHAOS! Release it and FLY! What are you waiting for?…

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You Might Be A Perfectionist

…you ready to FLY! FlyLady Please fight the urge to send a rude email complaining about grammar, spelling, or punctuation. You would not correct someone in person; what makes you think it is O.K to do it from behind a computer or phone screen. We do not edit testimonials. Perfectionism is not an asset. It is a wedge that you insert into your relationships. When you feel the urge to correct or complain; that is your red flag that perfectionism is…

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SAH Basics Anti-Procrastination Day

…my perfectionism is gone again. Whenever something seems to be too hard; look and see if your perfectionism is getting in the way. When your frustration level reaches that exploding point; STOP and check to see if it is your perfectionism that is making you crazy. Are you ready to FLY? Let go of your perfectionism and sprout those wings!!! FlyLady Tip of the Day: When you hear yourself say, “I don’t have time!”Set your timer for just 2 minutes…

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You Might Be a Perfectionist

…behind a computer or phone screen. We do not edit testimonials. Perfectionism is not an asset. It is a wedge that you insert into your relationships. When you feel the urge to correct or complain; that is your red flag that perfectionism is rearing its ugly head. Your perfectionism is the reason you won’t write on your calendar. Your perfectionism is the reason your home is in CHAOS! Release it and FLY! We have a new coupon code…

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Holiday Perfectionism has got to GO

…d to be spaced one inch a part all over this tree. Do you hear the perfectionism? This was just the inside of the house and I not even going to talk about all the lights on the outside of the house. So don’t allow your perfectionism to ruin the holidays for everyone in the family including you! It is not fun to feel guilty for yelling at your babies. Let of your perfectionism and find yourself FLYing to a different tune this holiday…

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Perfectionism is Not an Asset

…s then they are not ever going to FLY. They will not be able to accomplish their passions. When you don’t live your dreams you die. We can’t do this to them any longer. We have to give them skills. Let go of your perfectionism virtual reality of being the fix-it person. You don’t have to do everything. You can be a mentor and a teacher but you can’t be the rescuer. This is a hard lesson for me too. Are you ready to FLY…

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Perfectionism is Not an Asset

…s then they are not ever going to FLY. They will not be able to accomplish their passions. When you don’t live your dreams you die. We can’t do this to them any longer. We have to give them skills. Let go of your perfectionism virtual reality of being the fix-it person. You don’t have to do everything. You can be a mentor and a teacher but you can’t be the rescuer. This is a hard lesson for me too. Are you ready to FLY…

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The Snapshot of Perfectionism

…icture perfect holiday celebration. We tell ourselves, “If we do just one more thing it will make it even better.” When all our family wants is a quiet celebration without all the fuss. Those three Ps consist of; Perfectionism, Piling On and Procrastination. When our list gets too long we put things off. We left out of our plan the actual implementation of each item on our list. This is why I want to give you the greatest gift this…

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Your Perfectionism Hurts Others

…s then they are not ever going to FLY. They will not be able to accomplish their passions. When you don’t live your dreams you die. We can’t do this to them any longer. We have to give them skills. Let go of your perfectionism virtual reality of being the fix-it person. You don’t have to do everything. You can be a mentor and a teacher but you can’t be the rescuer. This is a hard lesson for me too. Are you ready to FLY…

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A Snapshot of Perfectionism

…icture perfect holiday celebration. We tell ourselves, “If we do just one more thing it will make it even better.” When all our family wants is a quiet celebration without all the fuss. Those three Ps consist of; Perfectionism, Piling On and Procrastination. When our list gets too long we put things off. We left out of our plan the actual implementation of each item on our list. This is why I want to give you the greatest gift this…

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Our Perfectionism Hurts Others

…s then they are not ever going to FLY. They will not be able to accomplish their passions. When you don’t live your dreams you die. We can’t do this to them any longer. We have to give them skills. Let go of your perfectionism virtual reality of being the fix-it person. You don’t have to do everything. You can be a mentor and a teacher but you can’t be the rescuer. This is a hard lesson for me too. Are you ready to FLY…

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The Vicious Cycle of Perfectionism

…gh. This pattern of being put down was all you heard. That is why we feel the need to beat ourselves up when we don’t do something right! This negative attitude was drilled into our heads. We were brainwashed with this perfectionism. Now in our parent’s defense; they had the same thing done to them. It is all they knew! We can put a stop to this vicious cycle of perfectionism through the generations. We are our own person and we have…

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Perfectionism is not an Asset

…s then they are not ever going to FLY. They will not be able to accomplish their passions. When you don’t live your dreams you die. We can’t do this to them any longer. We have to give them skills. Let go of your perfectionism virtual reality of being the fix-it person. You don’t have to do everything. You can be a mentor and a teacher but you can’t be the rescuer. This is a hard lesson for me too. Are you ready to FLY…

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Our Perfectionism Hurts Others

…s then they are not ever going to FLY. They will not be able to accomplish their passions. When you don’t live your dreams you die. We can’t do this to them any longer. We have to give them skills. Let go of your perfectionism virtual reality of being the fix-it person. You don’t have to do everything. You can be a mentor and a teacher but you can’t be the rescuer. This is a hard lesson for me too. Are you ready to FLY…

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Column 42 – Perfectionism Can Ruin Your Holidays by The FlyLady, Marla Cilley

…icture perfect holiday celebration. We tell ourselves, “If we do just one more thing it will make it even better.” When all our family wants is a quiet celebration without all the fuss. Those three Ps consist of; Perfectionism, Piling On and Procrastination. When our list gets too long we put things off. We left out of our plan the actual implementation of each item on our list. This is why I want to give you the greatest gift this…

The Perfectionism Monster

…ain. I find little vestiges of my perfectionism almost every single day. It is a never ending process to eliminate this from my thinking; much like decluttering. I have to nip them in the bud before they take over. See in my perfectionism I want to rip out every single bit of it; but I can’t because I don’t know where it is hiding. The trick is to be aware of its signs. The perfectionism monster makes us obsess and do too much as…

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The Perfectionism Monster

…ain. I find little vestiges of my perfectionism almost every single day. It is a never ending process to eliminate this from my thinking; much like decluttering. I have to nip them in the bud before they take over. See in my perfectionism I want to rip out every single bit of it; but I can’t because I don’t know where it is hiding. The trick is to be aware of its signs. The perfectionism monster makes us obsess and do too much as…

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Why Not Just a 12 Month Calendar?

…; I can do this all by myself! I don’t need help! Self-deprecating- We are best at this! Beating ourselves up! Perfectionism is a vicious cycle that keeps our family stuck and our home in CHAOS! When you let go of your perfectionism, you open the doors to fun and peace. Our perfectionism keeps our family out of the so-called “perfect” spaces. You know exactly what I am talking about. When you get the kitchen clean you threaten…

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Column 03 The Perfectionism Monster by The FlyLady, Marla Cilley

…ain. I find little vestiges of my perfectionism almost every single day. It is a never ending process to eliminate this from my thinking; much like decluttering. I have to nip them in the bud before they take over. See in my perfectionism I want to rip out every single bit of it; but I can’t because I don’t know where it is hiding. The trick is to be aware of its signs. The perfectionism monster makes us obsess and do too much as…

Why can’t I seem to be successful in creating a peaceful home

…rom what I like to call Perfectionism Procrastination Paralysis. Henceforth known as PPP Syndrome. FlyBabies who suffer with PPP Syndrome have several issues plaguing them. A is for Arrogance, yes this is a characteristic of perfectionism. Our perfectionism keeps us thinking; this is too simple; it can’t possibly work. B is for Beaten Down. We have suffered for a long time. We have worried about what people think. We suffered in silence…

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Ever Changing Goals of Perfectionism

…an. Our family members have, done this to us many times, so I guess this is where we learned it. Because consciously we do not want to set ourselves up for failure but why do we keep changing the rules. I know why. It is our perfectionism. If good is OK then better can’t be too much farther and why not be the best. Can you just hear this conversation in your head? Well it is not that simple. Because our best means we do nothing else but…

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Perfectionism and Being Calendar Challenged

…inally Flying with other FlyBabies. I have a dream of being on the radio with you some day being of service helping other FlyBabies talk more about what other deep feelings and challenges could be behind their own paralyzing perfectionism. With love, FlyBaby Claudia FlyLady here: My dream was just to help a few people overcome their CHAOS and FLY. I never thought that simple dream would grow into our large FLY Family that is all around the…

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Column 17 – Facades of Perfectionism by The FlyLady, Marla Cilley

…icized. If we know how it feels then why do we do this! I think it is perfectionism plain and simple. The truth is that we think we are better and therefore our opinion should and must be shared. Now that is a scary thought. Perfectionism rears its ugly head again and we are determined to stick our foot in our mouths just cause were right. When are we ever going to learn? Not every thought in our head should be voiced or written quickly and sent…

Facades of Perfectionism

…icized. If we know how it feels then why do we do this! I think it is perfectionism plain and simple. The truth is that we think we are better and therefore our opinion should and must be shared. Now that is a scary thought. Perfectionism rears its ugly head again and we are determined to stick our foot in our mouths just cause were right. When are we ever going to learn? Not every thought in our head should be voiced or written quickly and sent…

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We Were Told We Could Have It All

…I like to call Perfectionism Procrastination Paralysis. Henceforth known as PPP Syndrome. Payroll FlyBabies who suffer with PPP Syndrome have several issues plaguing them. A is for Arrogance, yes this is a characteristic of perfectionism. Our perfectionism keeps us thinking; this is too simple; it can’t possibly work. B is for Beaten Down. We have suffered for a long time. We have worried about what people think. We suffered in silence…

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Column 20 – Perfectionism is not a Virtue: by The FlyLady, Marla Cilley

When we least expect it, perfectionism reaches out and knocks us in the head. It keeps us from following our hearts desire and stops us dead in our tracks. Perfectionism triggers procrastination. This is when we tell ourselves; we don’t have time to do it right so we do nothing. We have all suffered with this affliction. We all have had dreams and those dreams were tossed aside because we told ourselves that we would never be good enough to…

The Albatross Around Your Neck

…t that it doesn’t have to be perfect to be better than it was. Take those babysteps and just do something. You can do anything for 15 minutes and housework done incorrectly still blesses your family! I want you to FLY! Perfectionism is keeping you from loving yourself. FlyLady We are in the middle of our Declutter Games! Our perfectionism keeps us from getting rid of stuff. We hold on to items because we don’t know where to take…

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Facades of Perfectionism

…icized. If we know how it feels then why do we do this! I think it is perfectionism plain and simple. The truth is that we think we are better and therefore our opinion should and must be shared. Now that is a scary thought. Perfectionism rears its ugly head again and we are determined to stick our foot in our mouths just cause were right. When are we ever going to learn? Not every thought in our head should be voiced or written quickly and sent…

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Free the Hostages

…to be perfect; you know this attitude. We could pull it off when it was just us. Then add into the mix a new husband and his stuff. We still wanted to have the perfect home. But guess what we did it. Only a few times did our perfectionism rear its ugly head and we put things off because we didn’t have time. Then we found out we were pregnant. During our pregnancy we were waited on hand and foot! This is when we first started losing sleep;…

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The Ever-Changing Goals of Perfectionism

…an. Our family members have, done this to us many times, so I guess this is where we learned it. Because consciously we do not want to set ourselves up for failure but why do we keep changing the rules. I know why. It is our perfectionism. If good is OK then better can’t be too much farther and why not be the best. Can you just hear this conversation in your head? Well it is not that simple. Because our best means we do nothing else but…

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Out with the Old; In with the New

…s not nice of me to expect too much too fast. I also realized that I had never established a habit. The process was simple now that I look back at it! I decluttered two bad habits and added one good habit. Decluttered –Perfectionism and Being Mean to myself Added — Shining my Sink! As I caught myself allowing perfectionism to be the excuse to be mean to me; I recognized it and turned it around to love me and build myself up! I…

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Timer Perfectionism

Dear FlyLady, So I have this issue which I know is a result of my perfectionism showing through, but what do I do when I set my timer for 15 minutes, but my task gets interrupted by the dog needing out/in, my dear daughter or dear son needing immediate attention, a phone call, etc.? Do I pause my timer? Or does that interruption just take away what time I have left? Do I start that task over with a new 15 minute round? I know this…

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We Can Mother Ourself

…mother didn’t have to do anything. Granny didn’t stand over her daughter and tell her to do it again because it was not done right. I doubt she ever even asked her to help. Now on the other hand; mother did have perfectionism in her personality too. But she was a SHE! Her perfectionism paralyzed her. So she would do nothing until everything to so bad or Granny was coming. At a very early age Paddi and I became responsible for the…

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